Our brains are our most powerful friend or foe. What’s interesting though, and what many of us often forget, is that we have the choice – will it be our biggest cheerleader? Or instead, our own worst enemy? Here are three tips to help ensure it’s the former.
Recently, in our Educate | Empower | Encourage community (founded by myself and Julie Bunkley alongside Wendy Kay of Birds of a Feather) shared the following: “Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”
While this was floating around on the Internet without someone to attribute it to, what I can tell you is that it’s without a doubt, 100-percent tried and true.
Before entering this industry eight years ago, I spent several years successfully navigating the corporate sales world. An underlying theme that was ever-present was the idea that before someone can successfully sell something (whether it’s an item, a service, an idea, etc.), they must first believe in it and take ownership of it themselves.
How does this affect us as creatives? First, embrace the notion that we are all in sales and that you are the master and keeper of your destiny. Yes, you. The designer, the photographer, the cinematographer, the stationer, the planner, the stylist, the floral designer, the cake baker, the hair and makeup artist — without the ability for you to sell yourself, your craft, your art, the why and how behind your gift — your business and brand will be extinguished and die.
With that being said, before you can get anyone else on board with your purpose and passion, you must first own it and believe in it without a shadow of a doubt — yourself. This requires a lot of practice, even for those of us with the utmost confidence, positive self-esteem, and a flourishing abundantly positive mindset.
So how can you go about flexing your muscles with these principles? I have a few quick steps for you to get started.
1. Turn Off the Noise
Those pesky and negative Facebook groups you’re in? Yeah, delete them. That friend who does nothing but spew problems, not solutions? Go ahead and social distance yourself. Anything that promotes fear and salacious negativity must be quit (and cold turkey, at that). This could be as simple as turning off the news, unfollowing some accounts on Instagram, or being mindful of who you spend your time with. You deserve a healthy and abundant mindset, and these things and people are holding you back from achieving that.
2. Practice Positive Affirmations
Take even five minutes each day to write down the things you want to happen to you, both personally and professionally. Seriously, try it. The key is writing your positive affirmations in past tense, as if they have already happened (hello, easy trick for our brains!) and then also spending time speaking or proclaiming them out loud. You may giggle at first or feel a little woo-woo, but I promise you, it will get your mindset in a place you may have never thought possible. And as you may (or may not!) know, our mindset controls everything.
Spend time and energy diving into resources that build you up, not ones that tear you down. Some of my favorites are, “Get Rich, Lucky Bitch: Release Your Money Blocks and Live a First-Class Life,” “UnF*ck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life,” “You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life,” and “You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth,” as well as the classic, “Think and Grow Rich.”
Above all, remain grateful and expect abundance to flow. Because, it will.